greedy, greedy boy

many at times, when i read other mummy’s blog, i cannot help but feel a twinge of guilt..

most mummies are so disciplined in how they raise their kids…

while i try my best, there are so many times, i just give into what my son wants…

for instance, this….

my son’s munching away mummy’s current favourite green tea cake from RT Pastry…

*sigh* so young, and i am already letting him munch away watever he wants ..haha..dunno to laff or to cry now ^_^

Taking care of the mummies, too :)

today, work was rather slow due to the fact that it’s FRIDAY and that Hari Raya holidays officially starts AFTER WORK..hahahaha….

so i was doing a lot of bloghopping and reading…and i came across one mummy’s blog (it was my first time) and this mummy wrote a very short insightful piece saying something around the line that says that all mummies should put in some time and effort on their appearances and all…

i couldn’t agree more with this…it is true that as long as you are a mummy (be it a full time or a working one), we tend to OVER-focus so much on our kids, we neglect to take care of ourselves (and sometimes our significant other half)

i know i am guilty of this too..ever since i have my dylan in my life, the comments that i keep getting from people around me tend to be “Your eye bags are so bad”, ” Your skin is very dry”, “You look so tired”, “You look older now”..and to be honest, I am not happy about it…and though I keep moaning about it, i really did not do anything about it…

until last week, my younger sis convinced me to go to a VIP sale at Luxasia…hehe..i spent RM500 on stuff just for my face!!!! aikkssss….i got myself eye cream, face moisturers, facial wash, face primer, lip gloss and eye shadows…though everything was a steal (like the La Prairie Eye Cream which usually costs RM600 + ..i got it at RM120!!! hehehe), but i must admit, i felt heart broken to have spent so much…Ooi and i are not rich and we really need to be careful with our spending…but i am hoping all these products will help me restore my *once youthful* skin again..hahaha..it better work cos i really dun wan to look like i am older than Ooi either..hahah…

so…to all mummies out there…do remember to take care of yourselves too…beauty (restoration) products are just so damn expensive now!!!

compulsory day for maids off: part 2

so..ooi has decided to voice his opinion on the above matter on his facebook status..he is of the view that if we were to give our maids day off once per week, well..then places like KLCC will be filled with all of them…

i mean…this is already the case as u all know..tat if u go to KL during public holidays, u will really see a lot of the foreign workers all in the city hanging out…and when tat happens, i feel as though i am in a foreign land, rather than Malaysia

ok…but tat is not the point or the motivation to me posting another blog entry on this matter…wat really prompted me were the comments some of our frens made…(not mentioning names here..u all know who u are..haha)..

the way they make out of the whole matter is tat, we are the inconsiderate ppl who are refusing to give our maids days 0ff..this is the part tat really ticked me off…

it’s not that i cannot live without my maid…nope..my maid has an off-day once every month..she’ll go out on saturday and come back on sunday evening…

we do not mind doing this once a month…but to be doing it every week is outrageous…both ooi and i are working parents…ooi has to work on alternative weeks for 6 days…and there are weeks where he works 7 days a week straight…whereas for me: on saturdays, i have to bring my son to a music class he is enrolled to..on sundays, i bring him to church to mix with other babies…

with all these things to do, in between we need to make sure everyone is clean and well-fed..it is quite a bit of work to do…tat is why we hire a maid..to help us to do all the small, nitty things like getting our meals ready and keeping the house clean…and my maid does not clean the house on a daily basis becos during week days when we are working, we send our maid to our nearby in-law’s house with dylan..my in-law has their own maid..so my maid does not need to do any house work there either…think how free she actually is? and even with the little work she has to do, she does half of it wrongly..

my hubby and i are working our assess off day in and day out (hehe..soree..but am really getting heated as i am writing this)…the government has never proposed anything productive or helpful to help out working parents like us…and we are the country’s own citizens!! and i have not even delved into deeper issues such as our maids being influenced by other maids, or opportunities for them to know other men, etc etc…

and now they have the audacity to propose such a ruling…tell me…why am i not happy? better yet, give me a reason to be happy about the ruling? go to work stress, come home also stress…tell me now, why again should i be proud of my government..just one issue is really enuff to make me pi**ed off..

the thing is..i hired a maid so tat me and hubby can get more financial support to give the whole family a better and higher living standard…otherwise, trust me…i can live without a maid…i’ll just have to quit my job to be a full time housewife…and with the reduced income, we cannot live the way we do…better education, better food, better clothes, better entertainment will all just have to be completely out of the picture..tat’s all..and we will just live a very mediocre, calculative, “buy what is only needed” kind of live…tell me…wat is the meaning of life if everyday we live like tat

i really surrender my case pls just spare me from the ‘oh..i m just such a humanitarian’ kind of talk

compulsory day off for maids?

i started off the day, rushing to drop dylan at my in-laws’ house and then zooming off in the predictable yet horrendous jam to work…

after i parked my car in the open car park, i hurried past my office lobby, into the lift and quickly made my way to my office seat…as i dumped my bag, logged in my password for the computer..little was i prepared to see the headline in the newpaper which i set as my default homepage…

urghh…yup…u guessed it…my lovely government has once again done it…once again, they have ‘cleverly’ implemented some stupid regulation before even bothering to get any form of feedback from the ACTUAL affected parties(for more info: http://www.thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/6/17/nation/4132651&sec=nation)

…sighh…i really, really have no more faith in my government…countless times, instead of being proactive they have decided to be reactive…and i am pretty confident this has got to do with the recent abuse maid case..

to be very frank, i have a lot of things i can say abt this…but i am choosing not to waste my time lamenting abt it over the internet..it is just pointless..i just know i am very unhappy and dissatisfied with my government right now…with tat, i end.

All Well’s ends well :)

It has been a tiring week for both me and ooi…dylan came down with a fever which then later became a flu…he had lots of phlegm inside him and was coughing constantly..he refused to take his medicine and vomited everything he could if we forced the medicine down his throat…

he’s been veree ‘manja’ to me throughout this episode..i had to carry him, hug him and kiss him constantly to make him feel better…so, it has been physically, mentally and emotionally changing..but I m glad he is well now… He’s back to being the cheeky, active lil’munkey I know..i lurveee him so much

Dylan looking like an innocent lil China boy

Separation Anxiety….~~!!!

Wat the……?? Haha..tat’s a pretty huge word for some people…

I know I have never come across tat word before I had Dylan….

According to emedicinehealth.com, separation anxiety is a fairly common anxiety disorder that affects children and young adolescents. This anxiety results from separation or impending separation from the child’s attachment figure, for example, the primary caregiver or close family member.

Notice that the definition says that its fairly common and that it affects children. In my case, however, I think I am THE one feeling separation anxiety every time I am away from Dylan. It’s terrible. And the feeling intensifies especially if I have spent more than one full whole day with Dylan. For instance, during the weekends, I would usually spend time throughout the whole weekend playing with Dylan, sleeping with him, feeding him, bathing him, and all. So when Monday comes, I’ll feel really sad and misses him terribly much more than I would during my week days when I go to work.

Dylan has not displayed any signs of separation anxiety from me yet…nope…but I am growing increasingly worried that he might possibly feel that from my maid instead….

She spends so much time with him as compared to me….perhaps this is my maternal instincts acting up…i really don’t know….i must admit that I do feel jealous and veree heart broken whenever I see her carrying or playing with my son….but I am also unhappy with my maid sometimes….when I am spending my time with my kid, she’ll stand right there, calling him too and trying to get his attention…so when I am playing with my son, she’ll be at the corner calling his name….every time she walks by us, she’ll be calling his name….it’s been happening for a while now…I really do not like it…but I do not want to say anything to her…cos I am afraid she may take it the wrong way…

It’s getting harder now, cos my son now laughs when she plays with him…and he doesn’t laugh as often when we do….i really do hate the situation I am in….it’s starting to eat me up….ahhhhh…..i really am doubting my parenting skill…sigh……

Baby Matters~~!!

I always wanted kids you know….Everytime i go somewhere and when i see those little tykes scrambling around, i will always feel a wave of tenderness and love for them….and i would always tell myself that someday i will have one of mine to play with, to hug, to kiss and to be with…

i got my wish as of 24th july 2008…my little dylan entered into this world, and i remembered clearly how much i panicked when i pushed the him out and there was no crying sound…i was frantically asking Ooi why there was no sound and then looking at the doctor as the nurses all carried my little dylan away from her to put her on the heated cot to clean her…my dr. was like “cos they have not cleared his airways yet darling”…and as soon as i heard that, a sharp and loud cry filled up the delivery room..it was the first sound and cry of my baby boy…it was only then i breathed a sigh of relief and realised that “I am now a mummy!!”

Ah…how i love him..looking at him aches my heart….he was just so tiny…and he looked so innocent and helpless..i could see him kicking and waving his hands everywhere as the nurses cleaned him up…

he’s been home now with us and is now more than 2 weeks old, fast approaching 3-week…eekk..the challenges….i remembered how awkward i felt carrying him…and feeling a little disappointed at myself for not having that instant maternal instinct or skill…feeding him is still challenging…my dylan boy would shout so loud that i am kinda worried my neighbours might soon move away…kekeke….sometimes, when we are trying to get the milk to him, he would cry til there’s no sound….(now that really scares me) …and changing his diapers…phew….even the nurses in the hospital commented wat a strong little man dylan is…his legs can really kick..!!

it’s been a rollercoaster ride of feelings for me since the day dylan was born…one moment you love him, want to care for him..but the next moment, you are scared of him and want to run away and cry…it is indeed true that it’s not easy being a mum… i remember reading a quote not so long ago which is truly applicable which goes something like this “when a child is born, a mother is also born. for a woman is not a mother until a child is born”

This is going to be a long journey for both me and ooi…He’s been so great during this whole process…so willing to learn and to play such an active role in both dylan and my lives..Dylan and I still got a lot we can also learn from Ooi.. i am glad my son has Ooi as his father..He’ll be a great influence to our son’s life…ahh…at the end of the day, despite all the difficulties i am having with dylan, i am glad thath Ooi is here with me all the way….so continue to pray for my little family, to those dear frens who are reading this….pray that our dylan will be an easy baby to take care of…and that both me and Ooi will be good parents for this fine, young man